The shedding…

A journey toward authentic relating

When do we get tired of pretending?

When do we strip down and allow ourselves to be seen in our raw, unguarded truth?

When will we give ourselves, and others, permission to exist without judgment?

When do we stop listening to the noise? The he said, she said.

The parts that care so deeply about how others perceive us.

The parts that try to control the image we project.

Aren’t we all just flawed humans, souls on this winding path of pain, joy, wonder, and grief?

Aren’t we all walking, seeking, wandering, wondering?

And deep down… don’t we all know that truth isn’t linear- not just what we perceive from our own limited viewpoint?

We all get caught in the noise sometimes.

But the horses, my teachers, show me again and again what it means to be in authentic relationship.

They offer endless permission to be myself.

Honestly, nothing less is accepted in the herd.

And I am part of the herd.

So, the refinement of my internal state- my being-ness- is an ever-present invitation.

I invite you too, into the forming of true, authentic connection.

Sometimes it is a journey of grief and surrender- to create, live in, and navigate real, aligned relationships.

Sometimes, when our truest self isn’t fully seen or met, a shedding must occur.

A re-alignment toward a life- and relationships- that truly reflect who we are.

Sometimes, that means saying goodbye to the ones that don’t.

So much of our trauma happens in relationship.

And so much of our healing must happen there too- in relationship, in community.

In spaces where you can show up fully.

Where you are seen, accepted, and loved.

Where shame gives way to wholeness.

Where your joy and your pain both have a place.

I know for me, it is a journey that has taken me into my deepest shadows. I recognise my desire and longing to be in balanced, authentic, real, soul-nourishing connections. And I’ve had to face the ways I still slip into roles and only show up with certain parts- and because of that, not allowing the ‘other’ in the relationship to fully see me beyond these roles. In doing so, I don’t get the real depth of connection I so desire, and the connection stays surface.

I am in a deep process of assessing and unraveling, learning how to show up differently- being more vulnerable, raw and honest- and asking to be fully seen in that.

I want my relationships to feel RAW. REAL. JUICY. A place where all of me is welcome and a place where I can welcome all of the other.

And the truth is, not everyone can meet me there, and not everyone is ready to be met there. That’s part of the grief, facing the gap between what I desire and what some relationships can offer. And sometimes, that means letting go.

If we want to move closer to authentic connection, we have to be willing to face the parts of us that are afraid of being seen so deeply. We give the fear a voice, we acknowledge it; after all, it is protecting us- it is probably there for a very good reason- AND- we lean in just a little more. We open the door just a crack- with safe people, in safe spaces, and we re-LEARN how to be in true connection. It is a path of vulnerability, courage, grief and grace.

This was and continues to be a vital part of my own healing.

That’s why it’s my mission to create sacred spaces where love, acceptance, and non-judgment are the foundation.

Come as you are.

Really. All of you.

Maybe your system will begin to learn that being completely yourself is safe after all.

That all your emotions, questions, and feelings are valid.

It’s a gift that keeps unfolding.